It's quite funny how extremely easy it is for us to be cruel and hurtful to ourselves. We have absolutely no problem calling ourselves fat or ugly or stupid. In fact, these words come out naturally. It's really sad, but it's the reality. People, especially women, have difficulty practicing self-love. It's like they're unable to utter phrases such as "I'm beautiful," "I'm smart," or "I'm worthy." But that's okay because it's all about to change. Here are the main tips on how to be kinder to yourself:
1. Write the pros and cons of being kind to yourself
Trust me, if you do this, it'll be crystal clear. So what are some pros? You'll be in a better mood, you'll want to be kind to others, you'll want to do good in the world, to name just a few. And the cons? Absolutely none!
2. Ditch the mirror
I don't mean throw it in the garbage. What I mean is stop scrutinizing yourself in the mirror. Stop picking yourself apart. Just stop. It's completely fine to look at yourself in the mirror to put on your makeup or fix your hair. What's not okay is staring at yourself and being mean to yourself.
3. Ditch the scale
Why do you even own a scale in the first place? Don't you know the scale is possibly the worst tool to measure progress? Who cares what the scale says. Who cares what the number is. It's just a number, as far as I'm concerned. If you know that stepping on the scale will turn your day into a nightmare then why do it? Just don't.
4. Get rid of toxic people in your life
You need to surround yourself with people who'll push you to be your best, motivate you, and help you grind. If the people in your surrounding aren't doing that then it's time to say bye bye. You don't need negativity in your life.
5. Unfollow toxic people on social media
This one is my favorite. A lot of Instagram influencers will make it seem like life is all rainbows and unicorns. Well guess what? It's not. Are the people you're following making you feel like your life is unworthy? Do yourself a favor and unfollow them.
6. Stop comparing yourself
Have you heard of the saying, "comparison is the thief of joy"? Then there you go. It should be pretty self-explanatory. But in the event you want to find out why you should stop comparing yourself to others, you can read about it here.
7. Accept yourself
You are who you are and that will never change. So why waste your energy on wanting to be someone else? You are beautiful and amazing just the way you are.
8. Invest in yourself
You're the most important person there is. What does that mean? It means you need to invest in yourself. It can be anything from taking a course that could help you advance your career to treating yourself to a spa day. As long as it's about you and only you, that's all that matters.
9. Give yourself recognition
You do so many things on a daily basis and that deserves recognition. You woke up early in the morning and went to the gym? Amazing! You aced your final exam? Good job! You completed a work project days before your deadline? Well done! You get the gist, right?
10. Read self-love books
Never underestimate the power of books. They can teach you many many things. They can even teach you self-love and self-acceptance. Here are a couple of my favorite ones:
If you have any other tips, please leave them in the comment section below.
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